Comments on So Very Blessed...: Step In Your Marriage Monday - Stress

Thank you so much for your encouragement, Lori! I...

2012-01-22T20:25:10.036-07:00

Thank you so much for your encouragement, Lori! I really appreciate it! You're absolutely right. Demands are dangerous grounds for disappointment, bitterness, and so much more. If only I could keep a servant's heart 24/7! I'm working on it, but I have a long way to go!

I just found your blog and I am always looking for...

2012-01-22T20:14:02.128-07:00

I just found your blog and I am always looking for any advice to help stengthen my own marriage. I am in constant need over how to be a better mate and meet my husbands needs! Basically I've learned one thing over the years. Place no demands. This can be as simple as you stated in what not to do... Asking them to do something like clean out the car. Being a very attentive, and willing to meet all his needs in the bedroom is going to give him a lot. We don't get this, because we are not the same way! Like you said, we want reassuring words. Be a great listener too:) God Bless you! Keep up the good fight,
Lori

oh man, i know how hard this stage is for you guys...

2012-01-09T19:26:01.637-07:00

oh man, i know how hard this stage is for you guys. i'm sorry to be the one to say this, but there might not be anything you can do to lower his stress. you can def be supportive and try to not add to the stress, but i know for steve that the immense weight he felt wasn't something i could even fully understand, let alone help with.
the one thing for him (daniel might be different) that helped was speaking truth. by that i mean reminding him that a) he had worked so hard and really and truly done his best, which is the best thing you can hope to say about a grad school application, and that b) i supported him and loved him no matter what.

and of course prayer. because you can't comfort him the way the holy spirit can. at the end of the day, he's inside daniel's head, and can remind him of truth, and comfort daniel in a way we wives only wish we could.

hang in there. it's a BRUTAL experience to go through, and i say that as having the "happy ending." it's still the most ridiculous amount of stress & helplessness. call any time if you need/want to chat.

Thanks, Alisha! Words definitely aren't the a...

2012-01-09T18:51:00.756-07:00

Thanks, Alisha! Words definitely aren't the answer this time, but it just means I need to work all that much harder on the actions! Thanks for the prayers!

P.S. I love when people call me buttercup. You totally just warmed my heart.

Praying for you guys!! I feel you on the stress le...

2012-01-09T13:33:59.521-07:00

Praying for you guys!! I feel you on the stress levels and not being able to help your husband. Our soothing words sometimes just aren't enough. Love that verse - "let us know be weary in doing good…"

Keep your head up buttercup, and keep looking up for those answers!
xoxo